I’m sure we all know the theory of everyone having ‘the one’, the one person in life that is perfect for you in every way. No other person will ever compare to them, they are simply made to be with you and no one else. But is there really such thing as the one? This is what we look at today.
Why I Believe There Is More Then One Right Person For You
Let me put this out there right now: I don’t think there is just one person that can make you happy in life. In fact, I know there isn’t. Let me explain…
A few years ago, I met someone who I felt was the one. After around 6 months of getting to know them, we started to go out, and formed a very close relationship. This person felt perfect for me, and I thought we would spend the rest of our lives together.
Fast forward two years into the relationship however, and after a few issues we broke up. I was of course devastated, this is the person I was deeply in love with and thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. They felt the same, and was also deeply upset that our relationship had ended. We were both still in love with each other, but knew it just wasn’t meant to be. It was a case of the right person at the wrong time.
Over the next three or so years I did meet people, but no one I had a major interest in. In all honesty, I thought I had lost my chance of having my ideal relationship, and had let my soulmate go.
Until I met my current partner.
This is the first person I have felt I get on extremely well with since my last long-term relationship, and in my mind could also be classed as the one.
So wait, there are two one’s?
Well, yes. Both of these people I have had a deep connection with, and feel they could have both been perfect for me.
I suppose in hindsight you could say my initial partner wasn’t the one for me. So why did they feel like they were for so long? And what if my current relationship doesn’t work out, does that mean this person wasn’t the one for me either?
I think it’s unfair to say that there’s only one perfect person for you out there, and if you don’t find them or you ruin your chance, you’ll never have a happy complete relationship again. While it may not seem like it during a break up or if you’ve been looking for the right partner for a good while, there will always be someone else out there for you. And you won’t feel like you’re settling in this relationship, this person will feel like the one for you. And they will be.
The One Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect, Just Perfect For You
As human beings, there is no one person that is perfect. Everyone at one stage will do something that you don’t like or will annoy you, it’s inevitable when you spend a lot of time around your partner or other people.
It doesn’t matter that your partner isn’t perfect, or even that you occasionally argue or sometimes want to spend some time alone. This is natural. That however doesn’t mean that your partner isn’t perfect for you. If you get on well and don’t want to leave them even despite their small ‘flaws’, then this person could be perfect for you. They could be the one.
I mean, do you love your parents? Or your best friends? But I’m sure you’ve had arguments with them before, right? Does that mean you care for them any less? Nope, in fact it can often mean the opposite! You care for them so much that you feel comfortable enough to argue with them and sort out any differences. In the end you will have a better understanding of what each other find acceptable, and grow stronger because of it.
This is the kind of relationship that will stand the test of time, and allow you to stay with your partner and grow old together.
Someone you feel fully comfortable doing this with is the one.
So, Is There Such Thing As The One?
Like I said, yes and no. There is such thing as soulmates, but there isn’t only ever going to be one person that you’re going to be fully compatible with. While I’m not saying you should go out and find everyone of these soulmates or upgrade your partner when you meet someone else you like (This is never advisable, you should always remain faithful in your relationships), what I am saying is don’t be too upset if you find the one but it doesn’t work out. There is someone else out there that will be just as perfect for you, and that will make you happy again.
So is there such this as the one and soulmates: Yes, but there may be more then just one ‘the one’.