If you want to build a successful partnership, you need to learn how to stop fighting in a relationship. If you’ve been with your partner for any real amount of time, you will find that at some point you will end up fighting or arguing. This is natural, and something that most relationships go through. The key however, is knowing how to stop and get over this fight.
Tips On How To Stop Fighting In A Relationship
Here are some tips on how to stop fighting in a relationship:
- Work Out Why You’re Arguing.
Work out the key reason why you’ve having this argument with your partner, and try not to steer away from this point. You have an issue that needs to be resolved, so figure out what it is and focus on that point. This will stop you from bringing up other issues and making the fight longer.
- Don’t Leave It Unfinished.
While you will sometimes want to end the argument as soon as possible, it’s often best not to leave the argument unfinished. If you do, it will come up again in future and become a recurring issue. Instead, either finish it at the time, or agree to come back and talk about it later when you’re both in a better frame of mind.
- Learn To Accept Each Other (Within Reason).
The reason why every couple argues is because we’re all different. We have different views on life, and we all expect different things out of a relationship. Because of this, your partner may not always 100% match your expectations and you may not match theirs. This won’t be a problem however if you learn to love each other for who they are, and realise everyone is different. As they say, you need to take the bad with the good.
- Show You Still Care.
Despite your arguments, it is important to be able to bounce back effectively. This is the sign of a strong relationship, and one that can go the full way. Once the fight is resolved, don’t focus on it. Instead, move on and show your partner you still love or care for them. This will help you to argue less and not make things volatile whenever you talk for the next few days.
How Much Is Too Much Fighting In A Relationship
As I briefly mentioned before, every relationship has it’s fights. This can be a healthy way to get things off your chest, and a way to let someone know you’re not happy about something. The end result is hopefully a new outlook on your relation and things changing for the better. But how much is too much fighting in a relationship? Well, if the fighting in your relationship is constant, then that is too much. Constant fighting in your relationship is not healthy. Often you end up arguing just for the sake of it, and keep going over old issue that will never get resolved.
If you’re arguing like this, you both need to stop and have a meeting. If you both want to stay together, you need to agree to make a conscious effort to stop arguing and be nice to each other. Do the things you know each other like, and relive the good times of your relationship. This will help you regrow those feelings for each other, and remember why you like each other in the first place.
If you have any more tips on how to stop fighting in a relationship, please leave then in the comments below.
Nice article! We can’t think of any relationship in which fights don’t take place. Fights take place when two people do not agree on a common decision, thought, action or choice of words of their partner. Remember by setting a few rules of fighting, you are deciding the dos and don’ts of fights.
Agreed Richa. Arguing doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing, as long as it reaches a conclusion and you can both move on from it. In this case it can actually be helpful and a good form of problem solving.