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How Complaining Can Stop You Dating

Be A Positive When Dating, Being Negative Doesn't Get More DatesSome people find it hard to meet people. This may be because they’re too shy to go over and start up a conversation, or it may be because they don’t go out enough and put themselves in enough situations. Others however have no problem meeting someone of the opposite gender, but despite this can’t seem to get a boyfriend or girlfriend. While there may be a number of reasons for this, one of the main ones is a negative attitude.


The Complainer

I’m sure you’ve been around someone who does nothing but complain. Or maybe, if you’re honest with yourself, you may be one of these people. The complainer is often encountered in a work based environment. They complain about their job, they complain about the weather, and they complain about all things in between. Nothing is ever good enough for them, and even when a positive change does happen, they find a way to pick holes in it.

Are You A Negative Date?

I want you to ask yourself a question: Are you a negative person? Do you always find yourself complaining about things? If you’re not sure, think back to the last few conversations you’ve had with various people. If a good percentage of those conversations included you complaining about the same few subjects, there’s a good chance you’re a moaner.

If you get initial dates but find it hard to get follow up dates or turn them into meaningful relationships, this may be the reason why. The thing is, most people don’t want to be around someone who complains all the time. This brings their mood down, and spoils the vibe for everyone who comes in to contact. If you’re a positive person however, a lot more people will want to be around you. You will bring their mood up, and ensure people who hang around you will have a good time.

How To Become A More Positive Date

If you’ve identified yourself as being a negative date and want to change, fear not. It is possible to become more positive if you put in the work, but you need to make a conscious effort to make this happen. The results will be more dates, a better chance of getting into a relationship, and most importantly a happier you. That’s right, if you act more positive all the time, you’ll find that things get you down a lot less and you’ll be more happy in general. This can help boost your immune system, and can rub off on the people around you.

The first thing you need to do is look at your usual conversation patterns. Is there anything that you always complain about in your first few conversations with someone? If so, make sure you try and steer clear of that subject matter wherever possible. If the subject does come up however, put a spin on it and only focus on the positive aspects of it. Even if it is only brief, it will be more attractive to your date then a long speech about why the issue is so bad. After that, you can ask them how they feel on the matter and keep the conversation flowing that way.

Another thing you can do is smile. There is nothing more attractive and positive then a smile, so doing it naturally will increase the chances your date warms to you.

If you can keep this up for a few dates, there is a good chance your dating success will improve. Remember:

Be Positive And More People Will Want To Date You.

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